Books We Love

A starting shelf.

These are five we keep coming back to. We read them ourselves first. Then, in small pieces, with the kids.

This is a starter shelf. We'll add to it as we go.

Mindset

Carol S. Dweck · Random House, 2006

The book that started the conversation. Dweck's distinction between fixed and growth mindset is the lens we use for almost everything: praise the effort, not the talent; treat failure as data, not identity. The kid-friendly version — the power of yet — sits on the fridge.

Atomic Habits

James Clear · Avery, 2018

Kaizen's modern handbook. Clear argues that you don't rise to your goals; you fall to your systems. We've translated his framework — make it obvious, attractive, easy, satisfying — into how we set up the kids' room, their morning routine, and where we leave books on the kitchen table.

Grit

Angela Duckworth · Scribner, 2016

Duckworth's research argues that staying with hard things — long after the novelty wears off — matters more than raw talent. This book changed how we think about quitting (when it's okay, when it's not) and how we talk to the kids about sticking with something they love.

The Whole-Brain Child

Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson · Bantam, 2011

Siegel and Bryson make childhood emotional regulation feel less mysterious. "Name it to tame it" alone has saved us a hundred meltdowns. If we could put one book in every new parent's hands, this would be it.

The Opposite of Spoiled

Ron Lieber · Harper, 2015

The book that made us stop tiptoeing around money at the dinner table. Lieber argues that kids who learn to talk openly about money — give, save, spend, in that order — grow up more grounded around it, not less. We started a three-jar practice with our kids because of this book.

This list will grow. If there's a book that shaped how you raise yours, we'd love to hear about it — drop us a note.